There is, however, a limit at which forbearance ceases to be a virtue. — Edmund Burke, Observations on a Late Publication on the Present State of the Nation (1769), volume i, page 273.


An Open Letter to Homosexuals

June 18, 2012   ·   By   ·   8 Comments

I write this not to professional homosexuals. That is to say, not to members of the well-funded, politically powerful homosexual activist lobby. They will mock and reject my words outright. They will twist and misrepresent what I say to further their own socio-political agenda. That’s fine. It’s to be expected. It merits little more than a yawn and an eye roll.

Instead, I write this to my fellow travelers in life – average, ordinary people, male and female, young and old – who happen to call themselves “gay.” I write this out of obedience to God.

It is my hope and prayer that you will consider what I have to say and take it at face value. My intentions are pure and my motives upright. If I can plant the seed of truth in just one person, and that seed begins to sprout, then I consider this letter a success.

I pray that you are that person.

What I write may offend you. It may even infuriate you. But I hope it makes you think. Know this: Your friends have lied to you. Christians do not hate you. We love you intensely. We love you because of who you are, not because of what you do or because of who you think you are.

Still, to love someone and to lie to them is to hate them – especially when that lie inevitably leads to a tragic and hopeless end.

If you have a loved one, blindfolded and running full speed toward cliff’s edge, do you not yell, stop! Would you not run after them, even tackling them if need be to prevent them from plummeting to certain death? What would we think of the person who said: “Keep running; all is well.”

All is not well, and you know it. On this path, “it” decidedly does not “get better.” It only gets worse. You will fall and you will die – perhaps not physical death, straight away – but certainly, an emotional and spiritual death. Homosexual activists, “progressives,” Hollywood, the media, academia and popular culture are telling you to keep running.

I’m yelling, stop!

Your lifestyle – homosexuality – is always and forever, objectively and demonstrably wrong. It is never good, natural, right or praiseworthy. If you have “gay pride,” you have “sin pride.” Although homosexuality is not the only sexual sin, it is, indeed, sin. Scripture is unequivocal on this fact throughout both the Old and New Testaments.

But this reality is manifest beyond the pages of Scripture. Unnatural behaviors beget natural consequences. So-called “homophobia” is not responsible for the fact that, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, one-in-five “gay” men and adolescents in major cities across America have been infected – through bad behavior – with HIV/AIDS.

Sin is responsible.

In almost every category – disease, depression, drug and alcohol abuse, and suicide – those who call themselves “gay” live and die with consequences that have nothing gay, in the true sense of the word, about them.

Is this you? Be honest.

At least be honest with yourself.

Scripture admonishes: “For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 6:23). This does not simply mean physical death, but something far worse: spiritual death.

Yes, hell.

I know from which I speak. I am no better than you. I, too, once lived a lifestyle of sexual sin. Not homosexual sin, but sexual sin nonetheless. As a young man I did not treat God’s daughters as He intended and, instead, engaged in a lifestyle of selfish womanizing and fornication.

The wages of sin in my life was death – spiritual and emotional death. I was on your same path.

But by His grace, I was offered and accepted “the free gift of God.” I, instead, was saved and given “eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

Do I still struggle with sin? Of course. Every day. We all do. We are fallen. We are sinners.

Still, Christ’s gift to me was forgiveness, redemption and life everlasting. My friend, that gift is available to you as well.

Snatch it up. Please.

During the Awakening 2011 – a national conference held, that year, at Liberty University – I was visiting with a young woman from the hard-left Southern Poverty Law Center (SPLC). I liked her. I loved her, in fact, in the way her heavenly Father, Christ Jesus, loves her and has enabled me to love her. I think of her and pray for her often.

In recent years, the SPLC has taken to smearing Christian organizations that defend the biblical sexual ethic as “hate groups.” After visiting for a while, I asked this young woman if she really believed that we Christians hate homosexuals. To my surprise she admitted that we do not. “But the things you say are sometimes hateful,” she added.

Indeed, truth is hate to those who hate truth.

The truth is that you have immeasurable value. You are a beautiful, unique, priceless human being. The very Creator of the universe, in the person of Jesus Christ, took such an interest in you that He meticulously wove you together in your mother’s womb. He loves you with a love that no human can fully grasp. Still, this is true not because of your so-called “sexual orientation,” but, rather, in spite of it.

You are valuable and worthy of love because God created you in His image. If you define your identity based upon sexual temptations and behaviors your Creator has called sin – an “abomination” – then you are not fulfilling the purpose for which He created you. In so doing, you have become the sum total of your sins. You are in rebellion against God and you know it.

He made you to know it.

Yes, the activists tell you to take “pride” in your “sexual orientation,” but you don’t feel pride. You feel ashamed, and so you try, in vain, to numb the shame with more of the very behavior that causes it. You will never fill the void you feel with drugs, alcohol or more sexual acting-out. These things only expand your emptiness.

Christ alone can fill the void.

And He will.

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  • thisoldspouse

    I recently saw someone post a reply to one of the oft repeated activist homosexuals’ questions, “when did you decide to be straight?”

    The reply: “Ever single day.”

  • Gene Bivins

    May you reap exactly what you sow.

    • Ty


    • DCM7

      Apparently, then, you wish well for Mr. Barber, since what he’s sowing is honesty, love and compassion.
      It takes some amazing denial and twisting of logic to imagine that he’s sowing oppression, hate, or anything like that. And yet (as we’ve seen already), some will do just that.
      Denial is an ugly thing.

  • Ty

    Believe it or not, I appreciate your concern for my eternal well-being. If we could all show more concern for fellow humans, perhaps we could make this world a better place.

    I am a bit shocked, however, that an attorney doesn’t understand that correlation does not equal causation- in other words, all of the problems I have faced in my life from being gay come from people such as yourself who have persecuted me, attempted to beat me, spat on me or informed me either calmly or screaming through a pickup truck window that I was making a sinful choice (a truly absurd and brazenly arrogant act of hubris). None of the problems came from any innate quality of being gay.

    Tell me, Matt, if you are speaking to me, then how do you presume to know how I feel about being gay? Do you see the flaws in your own argument- that you cannot presume to know my level of happiness at all? That I consider myself incredibly blessed, fortunate and surrounded by deep riches of family and community? Do you understand that your ‘research’ is correlative and not causative?

    Of course you do.

    The problem is on your end, not mine.

    You know this. You do.

    Your interpretation of your specific religious text is a highly personal choice you make. It is, in fact, a choice protected by law. I respect your decision to follow your particular religious path.

    By law, I am also protected from your persecution based upon that text. By law, I am free to not be Christian, nor be bound by the precepts of it.

    From one modest gay traveler of this world to you- I do not wish nor desire your tolerance or acceptance. It bears no impact whatsoever on my life unless you attempt to enshrine into law that which is your religious belief.

    So let’s be clear, you may not use your beliefs to justify the oppression/persecution of myself and my family. And no matter how you try to rationalize your form of ‘love,’ it amounts to nothing less than persecution. Your ‘love’ has blood on its hands.

    I’ve spent years dealing with people such as yourself, handling the very same argument- that you truly do love us and that you are concerned for my eternal soul. With all due respect, you have caused more pain and misery than any other single source in my life. If there is a God who decided to make me gay, then decides to punish me eternally for following my innate, natural expressions of love and commitment to family, I say this: Fine. If it means an eternity away from people such as yourself, I will gladly suffer the fires of hell.

    This is a meaningless statement, of course, since I do not subscribe to your set of religious beliefs. In that spirit, much of what you say here is equally meaningless.

    In the meantime, however, we must all live in THIS life. I will continue to live my life.

    I want to thank you for your letter, Matt. You have more firmly than ever cemented my distrust in anyone who claims the name “Christian.” You’ve demonstrated nothing but animus in the form of compassionate ‘love’, and poorly reasoned at that. Well done.

    • Bob Ellis

      Mr. Barber understands quite well both correlation and causation. Unfortunately, most homosexuals do not.

      I also think it’s safe to say that people such as Mr. Barber have not beat you up, spat on you or yelled at you.

      There are any number of people who will beat up, deride, and even rob a drunk if given a chance. I saw a recent example in the news in Baltimore, if I’m not mistaken. Just because the Bible says drunkenness is a sin, and that some people mistreated this drunk, does not make them Christians or even good examples of Christians. Perhaps you should reconsider correlation and causation.

      I’m a former drunk, so I know something about being on the wrong side of moral standards of behavior. I also know that how someone treated me as a drunk had no bearing on whether my behavior was moral or not, nor did it in any way justify my behavior. How I felt about being a drunk also didn’t matter; regardless of whether I was comfortable in that state or not (I was, most of the time), that did not change the fact that I was behaving immorally, and it did not change the fact that I was behaving in an unhealthy, self-destructive manner.

      Mr. Barber makes no mere “interpretation” of a specific religious text, but recognizes that God has clearly said in both the Old and New Testaments in multiple instances that homosexual behavior is a distortion of his design for human sexuality, which is something reserved for a man and a woman in marriage. You are free not to be a Christian, and you are free not to believe it-just as a person is free not to obey the speed limit, and free to believe the speed limit doesn’t apply to them-but sooner or later the moral law catches up to us all. Some of us realize our need to live within the boundaries of what is right before we face eternal judgment (as I did with my drunkenness), and some of us don’t face up to the fact until we are standing before the Judge; when you’re in front of the judge, it’s too late to change your behavior.

      I think it’s safe to say that Mr. Barber has no desire to “oppress” or “persecute” you. He does, however, have an obligation as a Christian (and as a fellow human being) to tell the truth about the dangerous lifestyle you’re living. Research in both the United States and Canada has found that the average lifespan of the homosexual is 20 years less than the general population. This is due to incredibly elevated risks of AIDS (72% of new male AIDS cases are associated with homosexual behavior-from a group making up less than 3% of the population), as well as many other STDs, anal cancer, hepatitis, substance abuse, depression, anxiety and suicide. And no, you may kid yourself, but these statistics are the rule even in areas and countries where homosexual behavior has been widely accepted for years. “Homophobia” is not to blame; living a dangerous life that is contrary to nature and the dictates of conscience carries with it a physical and emotional price.

      God did not make you a homosexual. God would not make a person behave a certain way, only to condemn that behavior. Rather, homosexual behavior is an aberrant behavior, just like drunkenness, lying, gossip, thievery, and any other habitual sin into which one may fall. Like all sinful behaviors, it can be escaped, especially when we humble ourselves, confess that we have been wrong and that God’s way is right, and ask him to help us change.

      I can only hope that you aren’t one of the activists that Mr. Barber did not speak to, the ones who are so deluded that there is little hope for them. God is infinitely powerful, but he has graciously given us all free will in this life to exercise for good or for bad. I hope that someday you will choose to exercise yours for good, and will accept his gift of pardon and change.

      • Ty

        Perhaps you should allow Matt to speak for himself.

        As for you… what can I say? I get the sense that anyone who disagrees with Matt is a “homosexual activist” in your book, and not a real human being. Perhaps that makes this dialogue easier for you. You show no ability whatsoever to think critically or independently. You cite similar research as Matt (again, neither of you bother with actual citations), yet fail to contextualize it and merely skew the data to support your own agenda of ‘truth’- in other words, you accept correlation as causation.

        Do you really, honestly presume to speak for your God? If you do, so be it. My point remains the same: you have the right to believe whatever you wish. You feel I’m an abomination? Fine. Others of your own faith will vehemently disagree, and thank goodness.

        What you do NOT have the right to do is to put your religious bias into a civil law that causes me or my family to suffer.

        And as for hope, I harbor some for you as well. I hope that one day you take your own advice. Yes, your ilk has blood on your hands. I’m looking directly at you. J’accuse.

        • Bob Ellis

          You may not be aware, but Matt Barber syndicates his column out to many sites, and I doubt he bothers to watch them all with baited breath to respond to homosexual activists who aren’t interested in the truth to begin with.

          What is an activist? An activist is someone who supports vigorous action in support of or opposition to an issue. If you are here advocating the homosexual lifestyle and adamantly pretending it is normal, moral and healthy, that seems to easily fit the definition of an activist. Being an activist is nothing to be ashamed of, though the behavior you’re advocating should generate some shame, just as my former drunkenness was worthy of shame.

          I’m afraid it is you who shows no ability whatsoever to think critically or independently. If you did, you would realize that in addition to the immorality of this behavior, it is also contrary to science and nature, and is extremely unhealthy. There is plenty of material at this website you can use to inform yourself about it, and I hope you will. The truth can be scary when we’re on the wrong side of it, but it can set you free, so I hope you’ll have the courage to research the issue further.

          I do not presume to speak for God. He has already spoken for himself, repeatedly and clearly. Since you seem to not be aware of that or understand that, I merely point you to what he has said. Again, you can look it up for yourself. What I say or anyone else says, even if they claim to be a Christian, really doesn’t matter. What God says is the only thing that matters, and the Bible is quite clear on what he has said. Please, find out for yourself.

          Actually, I DO have a right to put my religious “bias” into civil law. Every government creates its laws based on the dominant value system of its citizens. The United States is no exception, and has been basing its government and laws on the Judeo-Christian worldview since the very beginning. In fact, that “bias” is precisely why this nation is the greatest, most free and most prosperous in history. Even atheistic nations employ their “religious bias” against Christianity in their law and government; sadly, they are uniformly cruel and oppressive (the former Soviet Union, the former Eastern Bloc nations, Cuba, and North Korea to name a few). Every nation builds its laws on its dominant value system. You should be profoundly grateful that America’s is built on the Christian value system, and that you were fortunate enough to be born here.

          Finally, your blood would be on my hands if I crossed paths with you and failed to tell you the truth (Ezekiel 3:18-19). Matt has done so, and now I have done so. Your future is now on your own head. I hope you will take the time to investigate these matters for yourself, and not allow yourself to be misled by others who want the tiny amount of comfort your company may give them in Hell for eternity. Company will be little comfort to anyone in that place of torment.

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