Mary Sudovar: An Unsuspecting Victim?

courtsLife sometimes has unexpected turns that take us to situations we never supposed possibly to become our own.  It could never happen to us…not us.   I’m sure that is what Mary Sudovar once thought.  Never her or her family, she might have thought, if ever a negative consideration crossed this special woman’s mind in the first place.  So how did it come to be that the children she so loves are now at odds and the court system is involved?

Thirty-three months ago, Mary had an estate that should have kept her comfortable for her remaining years.  She had funds and she had property.  Now her money is allegedly gone, her house is sold and the alleged attorney in fact is requesting the court to allow him to take the house sale money as a repayment for a loan he and his wife supposedly made to his mother.  So where does that leave the 102 year old Mary Sudovar?

Some might try to argue that Mary is not a victim.  I’m not sure what the argument might be.  After all, what does one call it when family runs through that much money in that short of a time?   And what happens now?  Does Mary stay on with family for free?   Will there be no more additional charges?   If it can be done now, why not before?   But what about the private nursing personnel?   Who will be picking up the tab for that?   Or, will that service end?   Will Mary stay or will she go?

Mary was in a facility that she seemed to love.   There was round the clock staff.   She appeared to have excellent care.     She interacted with staff and other guests.   All family could visit at will during the appropriate hours.   And, it didn’t cost anything compared to what the stay with family has cost.   Where she could have lived on in comfort for far more years than is possible, now her estate is potentially gone.   (It will be gone if the court rules for the attorney in fact.)   But that is not being a victim?   This is something Mary would approve of, if she were aware of what is transpiring around her and supposedly in her behalf?

I wonder if Mary ever thought she’d be paying for armed guards.   I wonder if she knows she did.   It wasn’t something she ever had to think about or pay for at the facility she was living in.   The facility where her youngest daughter was her regular and faithful visitor.

Do you think she understands that she is not allowed to see or talk to her youngest daughter without supervision?   Supervision that someone has to pay for.

Then there are the construction costs to build a deck onto her house.   A house she would never be returning to.   After all, she was supposedly moving in with family because she didn’t have but a few months to live.   While it is wondrous news that someone was quite wrong about her nearness to death, why was she paying thirty-two thousand, I believe it was, to her grandson or his company for a deck that would not be of any benefit to her?

For approximately 39 months, Mary’s house sat idle and costing.   There were taxes, insurances, and utilities etc. that were simply being paid on a vacant house.   Oh, and we can’t forget the new deck that was built onto that vacant house.   So, just what was the purpose of the deck again?

It appears the house could have been rented and therefore paying for itself, rather than draining Mary’s money, but it wasn’t.

The house could have been immediately put on the market, when it was known Mary was never going home again, but it wasn’t.

Why anyone thought it was a great idea to pay so much money out for a house to sit idle and for it to get a new deck, is only something one can wonder about.   However, it wasn’t the best financial decision in the world and it certainly doesn’t appear to be what was best for Mary.

After hearing about this case, I came to the conclusion that for a woman in her 100’s, and not mobile, Mary Sudovar sure does spend a great deal of money.   It’s quite amazing actually.   But now that she may be relieved of the only money left (from the sale of her house), what will her future be?   Where will she live?   Who will be there with Mary during the rest of her journey in this life?   It is yet to be decided.

Mary Sudovar would no doubt be sad to see her children battling and a court making decisions in her personal affairs, but that is where the situation has taken her and her family.   Most likely, she doesn’t know what is transpiring, but she is a victim nonetheless.   She is the unsuspecting victim, who pays (and will pay) for the decisions of others, who may or may not have her best interest at heart.

For all that has been and might be, as this sad story continues, one thing will never change…

Mary has four children whom she loves dearly, even the one so often denied to her.


  1. ElaineRenoire says:

    Mothers love their children; and as they age, their adult children become even more precious to them. Mary should have free access to each and every one of her children. In cases where there is a family dispute and family members just can’t get along, a schedule can be made so the disputing adult children don’t run into each other. That way Mary’s wishes are fulfilled. She’s 102 and we don’t know how many more birthdays she’ll have. But we can almost be assured what her wish is every year when she blows out the candles on her cake: she was the presence, the love, and the comfort of all of her children.

  2. Diane says:

    Armed guards? A new deck for $32,000 built on a house, by her grandson’s company, that she doesn’t live in? Denied God given rights of freedom to see anyone she wants to see? This story gives very few details; however, when one particular person is denied visitation it generally means that is the person that is fighting against the glaringly obvious theivery that is going on. I know, it happened to me.